In society the modesty and restraint of the person, ability to control the acts, attentively and tactfully to communicate with other people are considered as good manners. It is considered to be bad manners habits loudly to speak, without mincing words, forwardness in gesticulation and behavior, untidiness in clothes, roughness, shown in frank malevolence to people around, neglect to others interests and inquiries, impudent imposing to other people of the will and desires, inability to constrain the irritation, in an intended insult of dignity of surrounding people, in tactlessness, foul language, the use of humiliating nicknames of nicknames.
To put it briefly, while all other Europe rolled in mezhduusobitsa, and feudal orders kept in full force, Italy was the country of new culture. This country also deserves on justice to be the called etiquette homeland.
It should be noted that the tactful and well-mannered person behaves according to norms of etiquette not only at official ceremonies, but also at home. Original politeness which cornerstone goodwill is, is caused by the act, sense of proportion prompting that is possible and that cannot be done under these or those circumstances. Such person will never break a public order, neither the word, nor an act will not offend another, will not offend its advantage.
Never it is necessary to pay visits in hours of after-dinner rest. In the train surely suggest your neighbors to have a snack together with you. They will refuse as well as you have to make it if it will be offered to you.
And it is valid, you probably had to witness as someone the third, watching the raged debaters, can put an end to misunderstanding by the friendly, tactful remark, sympathetic aspiration to understand the point of view of both debaters.
"The person who speaks only about himself, and thinks only of himself - D. Carnegie claims. - And the person who thinks only of himself - is hopelessly not cultural. It is not cultural, it is as if highly educated was".
The tactfulness, keenness mean also ability quickly and unmistakably to define reaction of interlocutors to our statement, acts and in the necessary cases self-critically, without feeling of false shame to apologize for the made mistake. It not only will not drop advantage, but, on the contrary, will strengthen it in opinion of the conceiving people, having shown them your exclusively valuable human line - modesty.
Unfortunately, the fine statement of Cervantes is absolutely jammed: "It is possible so cheap and it is not appreciated so expensively, as politeness." True politeness can be only benevolent, as it - one of manifestations of sincere, disinterested benevolence in relation to all other people whom the person should meet at work, in the house where lives, in public places. With fellow workers, with many acquaintances in life politeness can pass into friendship, but organic benevolence to people in general - obligatory base of politeness. Original culture of behavior - where acts of the person in all situations, their contents and external manifestation follow from the moral principles of morals and correspond to them.
Manners belong to culture of behavior of the person and are regulated by etiquette. The etiquette means kind and respect for all people, regardless of their position and a social standing. It includes the courteous treatment of the woman, the respectful attitude towards seniors, forms of the address to seniors, forms of the address and a greeting, the rule of conducting conversation, behavior at a table. In general the etiquette in a civilized society coincides with the general requirements of politeness which cornerstone the principles of humanity are.
Respect for another - an indispensable condition of tactfulness even between good companions. You, probably, had to come up against a situation when at meeting somebody carelessly throws into time of performances of the companions "nonsense", "nonsense", etc. Such behavior becomes frequent the reason of that when he starts speaking, even its sensible judgments meet audience a chill. Speak about such people: